The Inner Child: This is an aspect of the subconscious and one of the important influences in our daily lives. The inner child is a sophisticated yet manufactured program created by the conscious mind as it develops through childhood, puberty and adolescence. It’s an imaginary construct moulded by an immature conscious mind and deposited within the subconscious as a powerful set of belief systems and behavioural responses to our childhood experiences. It is influential and has a real impact on our daily lives because it contains powerful emotional components that have not been subject to the filtering mechanisms of a mature conscious mind. It is literally a childlike personality that can take momentary control over a person if specific emotional states are triggered.

A memory cannot be erased only the way we react to in can be changed the memory always exists although we may choose to ignore it. So the inner child is real and lives in its own little world within our imagination, it’s only when a powerful emotion is triggered that it reacts and influences our behaviour. We have all experienced temper tantrums that we regret and are embarrassed about later this is merely our inner child taking momentary control.

The inner child has 3 basic emotional states:

Wounded: When we feel that something is so unfair that we go into a kind of despair

Playful: When we feel everything is a game and we play

Loving: When we feel comforted and totally relaxed

The inner child is able to be loving and playful to varying degrease but generally when it feels wounded it needs to become playful before it can become loving again.