It’s obvious that people are not as interested in you as they are about themselves! So WHY are you constantly thinking about how they see you? Have you ever thought about that? Is it your way of preparing yourself for what someone might say to you?

Could it be that a part of you is identifying with whatever you believe they are thinking? Is a part of you running lots of verbal and visual permutations that vary depending on who and what you are focused on! Have you ever thought about which part of you needs to do this and why? Why are you thinking about the way someone else might respond to a particular situation? What is it within you that needs to know that it is right about what someone else might do, say or even think?

The inner voice that keeps you focused on what might be and makes you go through lots of different scenarios in your head is doing it to focus your attention away from what’s really important in your life. On some level you know this is so, yet you cannot help yourself, whatever you do eventually your mind starts to refocus itself on the same subject; situation, event, person and or past experience. When you’re not thinking about yourself your thinking about what others maybe thinking! Does this sound familiar?

While you’re in the flow of these thoughts there is not much you can do, but from time to time when the storm clears and the sun has a chance to peek through the clouds you realise it’s all a waste of time and distracting you from whats really important. The key word here is “distraction” why do you think you are distracting yourself?

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Whats preventing you from succeeding?

Now you may not like the word I am about to use but it best describes the aspect or part of you that is causing or creating this problem. If you are reading this and this aspects is in control of you it will simply want do dismiss what I am about to say as it challenges this part dominance. OK I am going to say it ‘ego’! I have to say it because it’s the truth and if your ego’s definition of the word ego is something it doesn’t like you’re going to feel uncomfortable now!

The biggest trick the ego plays is to say it’s not who it really is! But if you want to stop that voice in your head that’s always criticising or the opposite telling you you’re something you’re not, then you need to accept it for what it is and that’s your ego, only then can you do something about it.

As you well know your ego will do anything to distract you so you need a way to bypass it and take control of your own thoughts. The only aspect of you that has the kind of power and influence needed to do this is call the Higher Self. It can put a gag on your ego and put it back in its proverbial box if it wanted to. Normally this is not necessary as your ego is an important and valuable part of your consciousness or psyche.

Your ego is there to help you not control you, it is a tool you have at your disposal and not the real you. You are so much more! If you allow your ego to control you it’s a bit like a power tool making a decision about the person who is using it! If you allow your ego to control you that’s exactly what you are doing, giving away your decision making process to a power tool. Absolutely crazy!

OK so how do we put the power tool back in the box when we have finished with it? A good start would be to switch the power off and unplug if from the mains. Without any power it would have trouble doing any damage, so that’s the first step, take away its power. The second step it to put it somewhere safe where it’s not likely to get in the way!

There are lots of great books out there that talk about the ego but they don’t tell you how to control it, other than to say; it’s all down to awareness. Obviously awareness is important and you need it to start the process but the ego is one of the ‘Super’ power tools unlike regular power tools it only gets more powerful the more you use it.

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